The latest…because it’s been a day or so since the last asinine thing said/suggested/put forth.
I get a call yesterday on his drive home…it went something like this:
EX: So I’ve been thinking about how you need a new car and all and how I might be able to help you out.
ME: Yeah? How’s that?
EX: You could take over the payments on my car. (background: he bought a car a short 4 months after moving out…not a very ‘sexy’ car, more practical of a man needing a reliable car to drive around children and get good gas mileage to and from a long commute back and forth to work, besides, he had already bought his ‘sexy’ ride…the motorcycle)
ME: Silence and bewilderment.
EX: It has another good 150,000 miles or so on in…
(he rambled on about a few other things as my brain tried to rationalize his suggestion and make any sense of it. Am I just being ungrateful? I just don’t see how this will HELP me in any way. I really tried to grasp some way this might help, because that is why he suggested it, right? I was speechless.)
EX: You can think about it.
ME: Well…(contemplative pause) while I appreciate you trying to think of ways to help, that is not something I am interested in doing.
EX: It was just an idea, I only want to help.
ME: (exponentially confused as to how this would/could help) Are you looking to get rid of the car? (because it’s the only car he has, and I can’t imagine that he would be able to ride his motorcycle everywhere)
EX: No. I figured I’d keep it until it was paid off and then it would pass along to (next teen driver in line).
ME: Oh. (still confused and trying to make sense) Don’t you use it? So what would you do about a car then?
EX: Oh, I’d buy a new one.
AHHHHHHH!!!!!
Now it makes sense!
YOU WANT A NEW CAR!!!
Nothing else really makes any kind of real sense.
He wants a new car. He’s not finished paying off the car he has now. What better way to unload it than if someone else takes over the payments…EX: hey! she is looking for a new car, I’ll unload it on her, and make it look like I’m doing her a favor!
I ended the conversation with a very polite assertion that while I appreciate his gestures of looking for ways to ‘help’ me, it isn’t necessary. I appreciate that he has agreed to the short sale and is making it easier for me to move out of the house. I expressed that appreciation, because he could try to make it difficult. But I was clear when I said he does not need to be looking for ways he can “help”…the house really is it and when it is finished that’s it!
I’m gonna get whiplash from all this shaking of my head…never ending. Ugh
Making Sense from MY Perspective 