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Stranger things could happen

Yes, stranger things could happen…I’m sure…but this was a pretty surprising “huh???” moment… The ex was talking to the kids at bedtime, on speaker, as usual, them half listening, him trying to engage and not really succeeding.  It’s sad really.  I … Continue reading

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You can’t handle the truth!!

So today was the appointment with the counselor that I was struggling with… I’ve realized several things after today… 1.  I worry about seeming bitter, because I don’t really want to be perceived that way, because really I don’t feel … Continue reading

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Scarlet Letter

I’ve been wearing a self imposed scarlet letter. No, I never cheated on my husband. I wasn’t the one who ultimately turned away from my marriage in the end. Yet still, I have branded myself in my own mind. I … Continue reading

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Some things I WISH I could say…

Today my ex made a comment in an email about “knowing my feelings on this matter” regarding him moving forward with a relationship with the paramour and “appreciating my cooperation” with a schedule change that will accommodate their plan for reintroduction of her into … Continue reading

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I’ve got you under my skin…

I had a whole 1000+ word post I was starting… …and it was all rooted in the past. Feelings about what happened in my marriage. More evidence to support that I was miserable, but willing to make it work and … Continue reading

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A Letter from the Paramour

I received this after having another conversation with my ex about how his actions have damaged our kids.  How his paramour will never be anything other than the woman that he chose to leave his family for regardless of the … Continue reading

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The “moments” just keep coming…

So latest developments…because I know you’re just dying to know!  About two months ago I got news that my ex was moving back to be closer to the kids.  Remember Never a Dull Moment…?  Fast forward to a few weeks … Continue reading

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Some things are just taboo…or flat out wrong.

I truly believe you can surround yourself with a multitude of people who will all agree with you…whatever your position.  They will all cheer you on and sing your praises.  They will hold you up and puff your ego… …even … Continue reading

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Mirror, mirror, on the wall…

“I don’t like to hurt the people I care about” – the ex This was in response to a comment I made regarding the fact that our children know he lies. “I don’t like to hurt the people I care … Continue reading

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Lies, more often, are shame and manipulation. We feel ashamed that we aren’t “following the rules” someone else has put forth – a person, our parent, our boss, our government, our God.  We attempt to manipulate a situation so that … Continue reading

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