Yes…I did say “comment”! Just as a picture can tell a story, so too can our comments. Especially with all the undertone unspoken words that we DON’T say…
…but just as a picture’s story is up to the viewer to determine (I often enjoy the game of “people watching” and the unique stories we come up with to describe perfect strangers) so too is the undertone that is heard under the guise of a passing comment.
“I LOVE YOU”
can have some powerful undertones. It can say “I want you now” or “you mean more than the world to me” or not so powerful “thanks so much for helping me with that chore”…
“I have to work late tonight”
can have innocent intentions that “I am trying to put in a best effort to be viewed by my superiors” or “there’s a big project that needs to get done, and this is the only way to do it” or not so innocent “there is a more desirable reason for me to be at work then there is at home”…
“I’m SORRY”
can be sincere in that “I wish things hadn’t happened this way” or “I didn’t mean to do that” or even sincerely “I wish you hadn’t caught me…cuz now I have to say this”
Unfortunately comments share the same fate as pictures in that the person who is viewing the picture puts their own perspective on the lean of the story to describe the picture…which is why therapists use the Rorschach inkblot test to learn about a patient’s motivations, understandings, and internal dialogues…
MY Perspective is skewed to my own interpretation…and THAT’S OKAY!!! 😉
Making Sense from MY Perspective 